Should I adopt children in birth order?
Birth order is an important consideration when growing a family through adoption. Adding to the youngest end of the family is often encouraged by professionals as disrupting birth order may heighten struggles as other children adjust to new family dynamics. If the parameters of your adoption make it implausible to adopt in birth order, enlist the help of a knowledgeable therapist or professional who can best advise and help you navigate the transitions for your children and family.
Should I adopt multiple children?
There are many sibling groups living in the U.S. and abroad who are also waiting to join a family through adoption. Siblings can offer comfort and familiarity to one another as they transition to a home or culture that is new. While it is important to make sure you are able to financially provide for the needs of your children, take time to consider whether you can meet the emotional and attachment needs of each individual child.
How do I help prepare my child(ren) for a new sibling through adoption?
It is important to regularly engage your child(ren) in conversations about what to expect in the adoption journey. This will help you be aware of any concerns or questions your child(ren) may have and give you the opportunity to set expectations about the timeline and what to expect once his/her sibling is home. Encourage your child(ren) to speak openly about his/her fears and needs, affirm his/her feelings, and encourage him/her to ask questions and share. This will go a long way in helping everyone have a safe place to process, adapt to changes, and find healthy and meaningful ways to transition into a strong and connected family.